To each his own!
A weird discussion had taken place over lunch with a pal a few weeks ago. He claimed that some women spoke to him solely ‘cos he plays a guitar. They’d actually think he is ‘all that’ and want to be friends basing their reason for friendship exclusively on his guitar skills. Me being the person who has to contradict everything one ends up saying to me, tried to think of valid reasons why these females were showering him with attention. After all talks of - maybe they did know you (said ‘really’ at this point with a sincere look in my eye) or liked you a person – were brushed aside as lacking in evidence. The bottom line, which I knew all along but didn’t want to confess, is that some women have a guitar fetish. I know I do. It’s not that I’ll make a person who plays a guitar my pal.. but there is an inherent attraction to someone who plays it though. My friend seemed to find the behavior despicable and didn’t seem to share my tolerance for it. Perhaps I’d feel similarly too if people liked me for no apparent reason at all. Hmm or would I?
I have a complex where I question people’s love for me and seek validation for it. Of course nothing substantial ever comes out of such a trip. But does that mean I don’t like it? Bull. I totally enjoy the attention, though I feel a need to feel more worthy of the love being bestowed on me. So keep trying to figure out why. But that’s another post.
Reverting to the topic, why can’t we let people be?
I am sure everyone has a proclivity that could borderline infatuation or be downright obsession. My point is, why do we get irked about someone else’s tendency? Unless you are at the receiving end of such behavior and it impedes your lifestyle, why bother with it? For all we know, it’s probably a psychological tendency towards something that’s come about from all the information we’ve digested since we were kids. Take the example of men smoking cigarettes. Enough ads and movies have glorified this habit to a point where people see it as a sex appeal factor. I on the other hand have an aversion to the habit ‘cos I’ve seen my dad be stuck to it for way too long. So we can’t always feel similarly about an issue. It could be guitar or drums for me, could be tennis players for another. One doesn’t need to encourage it or put it down. Take it for what it is… Something that gets us started for no apparent reason whatsoever. It’s good to give in and enjoy it while it lasts. After all, rationality is never far behind and is just waiting to ruin the moment.
I say let go!