About compatible relationship sets

This is from a mail I wrote to a friend. I had this theory…

I believe that everyone has a set list of passions that make them happy. They could be silly things like collecting stamps to watching tv, or comparatively serious things like working at soup kitchens to world travel. As a person grows, this list changes. At any given time, one might have something from 3 to7-8 in this list.

I think that for a decent relationship, people need to share at least 3 of them.

People in the relationship pick up the other person’s passion at times ‘cos you see how much indulging in it makes the other person happy. At times, people incorporate their partner’s habits along the way and make them their own. Of course no one can imbibe or really like every habit their partner will have, which is good. So, people sometimes do their own thing, which gives them the much needed space. If you have too little in common, one of the two will always feel that they are doing something that’s not fun together, ‘cos the activity being performed is one or the other’s passion and not something that’s common between the two. This will cause you to think that the reason you both have no fun together is ‘cos u aren’t into each other. This might be true too.

So what’s the point of all my gibberish? I think one needs a person who is similar up to a certain point, but who can also brings their own uniqueness to the table.

We don’t need to become alike completely for a good relationship. A good amount of space is actually healthy. You of course don’t want to give too much space that you are drifting off and you guys are always separate. You know what I mean. A healthy amount of space. How does one define that to start with? What is good for the goose is probably not that great for the gander.